Tuesday, 9 April 2013

If I Didn't Take A Break

I have so loved having a wee blogging break. 

It has done my sanity awesome-good-things. 

I don't know if anyone else ever feels this way - but life was overwhelming me. I had to cut back somewhere: I can't cut back at work (bills to pay and all that); I can't cut back on parenting (two children to parent); I can't cut back on being a wife (unless I want my relationship in tatters. No thanks); I can't cut back on exercise (because it makes me feel so happy). So it was blogging and housework.

As a result our house is one heck of a mess, and there's a really impressive leaning tower of clean washing on the couch; and my head feels clearer. My blog is a mish mash of thoughts and a trail of where my mind is at, a kind of online inspiration board - minus the inspiration + the bored. 

But it's ok. It is ok. I am ok. My mind feels better for it. 

It's also given me time to think about PottyMouthMama - and who she is, what she stands for, and where she is going.

Over the last few months I've really contemplated giving up blogging. I've been blogging almost non-stop for five years. I let my blogging birthday slip past because - well what have I got to celebrate. 

Please - join my pity party. Just jokes. It's been cancelled. 

Instead this is where it's at:

PottyMouthMama is a working mum. Whether she wants to be working is really beside the point, isn't it? She has to work because - like I said earlier, there are bills to pay, mouths to feed, a car to put petrol in. But work doesn't define PottyMouthMama.

PMM loves: fashion, beauty, enjoying life, getting out and about, family, friends, reading, films, art. This is PottyMouthMama. She's complex. She's fun. She thinks about her life BC (before children), and loves reminiscing about tabletop dancing - but doesn't miss it. She's looking forward. 

I had a friend ring me late one Friday night - she was drunk, I was lying on the couch happily watching Poirot. She berated me loudly and said "yes well that's what you do in suburbia - stay at home on Fridays and watch free-to-air". Well last time I checked with my local suburban free-to-access police station - it wasn't illegal (unless things have changed - and in which case, my hands are in the air - come and arrest me). She continued for another five minutes before I cut the conversation short - she wouldn't remember ever talking to me anyway. I didn't need someone else raining on me, I already give myself a hard enough time without a support crew. 

That phone call not only stung - it made me think about life decisions (and which way our friendship was heading). it made me considerhow no matter who you are, or what you do, life is difficult, life is tough, life throws challenges at you every. single. day. But it's ok. I am ok!

Over the next few months PottyMouthMama is going to change a little. She's evolving. And she doesn't have to please other people in the process, and she's not going to apologise for being who she is. 

And PS - I will watch Poirot on a Friday night if I want to. 


Ellen Arthur said...

I loved this post.
I think that juggling our life with kids and bills and laundry we also feel as though we should be everything, and feel obliged to apologize for ways that we change (like spending a whole lot more Fridays on the couch.) I can't wait to see what direction your blog takes :)
Ellen xx

ps. I have a thing for snog marry avoid on a Friday night!

Leanne Bertram said...

I love free-to-air. And couch-time. I don't miss dropping $300 to get drunk & have some groper trying to paw at me that won't take no for an answer.

I think your friend was/is insanely jealous.
And if she isn't, who cares? She sounds like a slapper.

Leanne Bertram said...

and you took a break? That was a break? Sheesh! Try hanging out with me sometime .. i'll show you the slow lane ;) x

Pip @ JustB said...

I love your blog. Always have. Always will. No matter what you do...! (Unless you post dude nudey shots or something.... I would find that a bit bracing...) x

Georgia Sutton said...

This process, evolution, is good don't you think? The point at which we can sit on our couch and pass up free tickets to a Robert Pant concert to stay home and watch Skyfall on dvd with your husband instead (I know, its not cool, but it had to be done) and not give a fat rats about what anyone else thinks of us. Cos really, who cares what other people think? There will be more dancing days, when the kids are bigger.

People pleasing is so last century. After all, the barrow that everyone pushes is their own and everyone is just doing the best they can.

The one thing I do want to say to you is that where work is concerned, you are not necessarily trapped. That feeling of being trapped in work that is not working for you and the family is hell. Hell, I tells ya! Its depressing and horrendous. You are an awesome, talented, powerful woman. Who would not want to employ you in a more flexible, family friendly job that pays properly? I was reading on a comment on Jamie Oliver's instagram today, as you do, how he goes out of his way to employ Mum's in flexible, project based arrangements. He is gold and that approach is totes the way forward, n'est-ce pas? He has a restaurant in Sydney doesn't he? They must be gagging for a talented pr chick like you? Ok, well it might not be him but, maybe someone?

Work doesn't define you but feeling stuck in a crap job does. It ate my innards out.

You don't have to be stuck. You can fly.

robynforsyth said...

Ray you !
Jeepers I was worried how I would fill my Tues, Thurs and Fri nights if your posts were not forthcoming...
I am so sad I am not even watching free to air. I would if Patrick Reid would leap outta the TV or even appear on it!
Hate the haters - suburbia is awesome. You should see how much plastic tupperware and lunchboxed I can stack on the dish rack... like Jenga challenge...

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Amanda Spann said...

Dear Lexi,
We don't know each other but boy am I hearing you lady. Sometimes we just have to do what we have to do and deal with the situations that are dealt to us. I like that you are looking forward and thanks for that advice 'cause that is exactly what I need to do. Get over some stuff and move forward. Go forth with ye blog and do what YOU want - it's your space. And also thanks to @Mrs Sabbatical for introducing me to you via the interwebz.

Kate Moore said...

Amen to that. To not apologising AND to watching Friday night ABC. Yeehaa!

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Lisa Tilse said...

change is good. life isn't static.

I'm looking forward to seeing where you take PMM. I'll be along for the ride.

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